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4 tips for raising generous, caring children
“Mom Enough” podcast host Dr. Marti Erickson suggests changing “what do you want” to “what will you do” for others.
GOLDEN VALLEY, Minn. — Every holiday season, parents and caregivers often find themselves asking children what they want for Christmas; but developmental psychologist and co-host of the Mom Enough podcast, Dr. Marti Erickson, stopped by KARE 11 Saturday to instead suggest families ask kids what they plan to do for others.
“At every age, from toddlers to teens to the elderly, people are healthier, happier and more confident when they realize that they can contribute something of value to their family, their school, their community,” Dr. Erickson said. “When these experiences of contribution begin very early in life (when a child’s sense of self is first developing), there is a lasting impact on the child’s learning and development. Children learn, ‘I am valuable, I contribute.’ When families reach out to their community together, they reap benefits as individuals and they strengthen their family relationships.”
Dr. Erickson offers these four tips for nurturing generosity in your kids:
Help your child choose age-appropriate ways to give gifts to family members
“Start by asking your child what they would like to give — or do — as a gift for a parent, sibling or other family member,” Dr. Erickson suggests. “If a child gets an allowance and saves money, this might mean choosing a favorite treat, book, or other affordable gift. Or it could be a nontangible gift, such as a ‘gift certificate’ for helping mom fold laundry for the next week or for doing your sister’s household chores the next weekend.”
Let your child do meaningful age-appropriate tasks for holiday gatherings
“Decide as a family how each person will contribute to family gatherings during the holidays,” Dr. Erickson said. “For example, helping get the house ready beforehand, taking guests’ coats, making place cards, setting up a play area and sharing toys with other children. Help kids see through the eyes of your guests, asking themselves what guests would enjoy and how they could help make that happen.”
Choose a service project for your family to do together
“There are countless opportunities – sponsoring a family for the holidays, stocking food shelves or serving meals, doing clean-up on a highway or in a park, preparing gift boxes for refugee families or members of the military and their families,” Dr. Erickson said. “Start small, think about making service a part of your family’s holiday traditions. Then, as you reap the benefits, think about carrying the tradition throughout the year.”
Choose a charity to support as a family, knowing every little bit counts
“As a family, learn about charities in your areas of interest and decide on one to support this year. No contribution is too small and each family member can contribute as able,” Dr. Erickson said.
Overall, the MAC says it expects a six percent increase in travelers compared to last year.
ST PAUL, Minn. — Holiday travel is ramping up with the holidays next week, as thousands hit the skies out of MSP to other parts of the world.
The Metropolitan Airport Commission (MAC) says they expect tens of thousands of travelers to pass through security checkpoints each day, with the busiest day before Christmas falling on Friday.
The day after Christmas, Dec. 26, is expected to be the busiest day overall, with nearly 50,000 travelers going through security checkpoints.
Overall, the MAC says it expects a six percent increase in travelers compared to last year.
“It seems like a lot of people are traveling, but not me at this time,” Jose Acuña said. “I’m here to pick up some of my family members from Costa Rica.”
Count Acuña as one of the lucky ones, not having to brave holiday travel this time around.
“A couple of them have never seen the snow!” he said.
Their flight seemed to make it on time, unlike hundreds of others. According to the MSP website, over 250 flights were delayed or cancelled today. Close to 600 were on time.
“Just go with the flow. Sometimes we are too rigid making plans,” Acuña said. “But things don’t happen that way, and we just have to, you know, enjoy it.”
That advice seems apt this time of year – and especially for two travelers we spoke to Saturday night.
“I figured if my daughter vouched for her, and I like her son, because I’ve met her son,” Linda McRae said.
“God bless her for that!” Chris Carlin said.
McRae and Carlin met for the first time in person Saturday for their flight to Tennessee – their kids live together.
Their advice to making it through this crazy holiday travel season? Just keep in mind that it’s never that serious.
“Listen, I was more stressed at home getting my house ready for somebody to come in and take care of my cat!” Carlin said. “This is the easy part right here!”
John’s display draws hundreds of people every night.
SAINT PAUL, Minn. — We’re all familiar with the lore of Santa’s elves.
But at the head of this workshop in St. Paul is John Pihaly. He has collected 30 Dayton’s Christmas Display Characters from 10 of the old shows and restored them to recreate those iconic scenes.
“My wife was quite shocked,” laughed Pihaly. “I brought home 24 characters originally, and had them all set up here in the garage. I said, Honey, look what I did!”
“I always laugh, and everyone always says, what did you contribute?” Lindsay, his wife, said. “And all I can say is, I lived with these elves for the past year, strewn throughout the house. That was my contribution!”
But lucky for John, Lindsay has warmed up to the animatronics and covered up porch which houses the displays.
“He wanted to bring the magic alive, not just for us, but for an entire community,” he said.
Pihaly had smaller displays with a handful of figures in 2020 and 2021, but for the past few years he has dedicated hours into this display. He has consulted other collectors, and even former Dayton employees on how to perfect the art of restoring the figures.
He also had to create all the sets from scratch.
“The stories we share are all very similar,” he said. “It was a magical place to go and be.”
Every night he gets asked if folks can donate to him and his work, but he directs them to fundraising efforts for Toys for Tots and the Salvation Army. He has a box for donations in his yard.
Hundreds of people visit his home at 1887 W Saunders Ave. in St. Paul every night. The display will be alive from 5 to 9 p.m. every evening until Christmas Day.
The National Retail Federation expects 157 million consumers to shop on the Saturday before Christmas.
BLOOMINGTON, Minn. — On the Saturday before Christmas, many admitting to procrastination dashed to find their last-minute gifts.
“This was the only day we had,” Carol Schindler said at the Mall of America.
Dave Lafond embraced the holiday hustle as a family tradition. “It’s fun and chaotic,” he said.
They’re two among the 157 millions consumers around the country expected to shop on this Saturday alone, according to the National Retail Federation.
“With a shortened window between Thanksgiving and Christmas this year, consumers will be hitting stores and shopping online to get those final gifts and to take advantage of special promotions and deals,” NRF Vice President of Industry and Consumer Insights Katherine Cullen said in a press release.
With four days left until Christmas, anything is possible if shoppers walk fast enough. Hundreds of gift-getters spirited fast passed Douglas Ness who stopped for a much-needed Cinnabon break.
“I’ve got all mine done,” he said. His granddaughter, meanwhile, had yet to complete her shopping.
Until his wife passed away three years ago, Ness said he would shop for the holidays with her. “One of the first things we did is get these Cinnabons over here.”
His holiday tradition continues with his granddaughter. The cinnamon treat comes with crossing presents off her Christmas list, finally.
