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Swiping on dating apps has turned into a career for some. Here’s how they turned love into a job.

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More than 70% of Americans say a rewarding career or job is extremely important for them to live a fulfilling life — more important than family, friends or wealth. CBS News interviewed a broad array of workers who chose unique jobs, for a series we call: Unique jobs, extraordinary lives.


Andrew Boese, a 38-year-old Arizona-based music enthusiast, isn’t a fan of travel. But online and for work, he might find himself impersonating an older Australian gentleman with wanderlust looking for love. He’s adopted several other different personas too, including a professional ice hockey player, advertising executive and 22-year-old heir to a family business fortune.

For the past decade, he has been a ghostwriter for Vida Select, a global company with 135 employees that does the legwork of online dating — including creating a profile, swiping and messaging with prospective dates — for people seeking new relationships. 

It’s an emotionally fulfilling career and one that satisfies his creative instincts, Boese said.

“It gives you a chance to live vicariously through your clients. You may be terrified of heights, but typing the words ‘I love bungee jumping’ could be cathartic,” he said. “It’s a chance to try on new shoes and see myself in another life.” 

Boese, who landed at Vida Select by answering a classified ad for a creative writer, takes pleasure in making love matches for others and enjoys the flexibility the job affords. He typically sets his own hours and works remotely. 

Boese spends hours every day logged into dating apps, on behalf of a handful of the company’s 387 clients, inhabiting their communication styles and dating preferences, even if they’re a different gender or generation, or have interests vastly different from his own.

He is single himself — but logs on to dating apps strictly for work. “It’s like a car mechanic that drives a broken-down pickup truck. You don’t take your work home with you, I guess. There are other ways to meet people and I enjoy those,” he said. 

Clients either don’t have time or aren’t skilled at navigating online dating so they hire Vida Select, whose employees — including Boese — say they’ve found a uniquely satisfying career path.

Outsourcing dating lives

The company was founded by owner Scott Valdez after he sent 47 messages to eligible prospects on dating apps without receiving a single reply. He told CBS News people outsourced many things in their lives such as dog walking or scheduling appointments so he thought – “why not online dating?”

He placed a job ad on Craigslist where he met a writer who Valdez, 39, said had “a knack for online dating.” 

“He took my approach and improved upon what I was doing,” said Valdez, who ultimately ended up in a committed relationship.

Now there are over 100 employees at Vida Select, a multi-million dollar company. Matchmakers manage a client’s account, and scouts choices by swiping left and right on candidates. Valdez said Vida Select does not publicly disclose its exact revenue. Employees are compensated on an hourly basis, but Valdez did not disclose their pay rates. “Given our global reach, hourly rates are thoughtfully adjusted according to each team member’s experience and the cost of living in their respective locations,” Valdez said.

Boese, the ghostwriter, said that while he doesn’t make millions, having a viable career that gives him autonomy over when and where he works is worth the tradeoff. Being his own boss helps him relate to the higher-paid business tycoons he sometimes writes for, he added.

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Andrew Boese, a 38-year-old dating site ghostwriter for Vida Select during his work day.

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The matchmaking industry is estimated to be worth $1.2 to $1.5 billion globally, with nearly 40% of the market located in the United States, according to an estimate from Marketdata. Pricing is somewhat opaque, but high-end matchmakers can charge clients tens of thousands — or even hundreds of thousands — of dollars a year, with no guarantee of a happy ending. 

Over five years, Cam Smith, who manages the company’s team of 36 ghostwriters, has become adept at adopting any given client’s particular tone and style, whether it be assertive and confident, or passive and empathetic, for example.

When Smith is “online dating” for someone whose personality is very different from their own, they use a particular technique. “I find a point of comparison in my life, whether it’s a friend, family member, or character on a show that has a similar archetype of personality. I’m implanting that in my mind as my anchor point,” they said. 

Ultimately, the Vida Select team’s job is to distill clients’ core values and desires, and create sparks online that could ultimately lead to a satisfying offline relationship or even marriage. 

“It’s about being able to embody who they would be if they had all the time and energy to put into it,” Smith said. 

“I know what they’re looking for”

Ghostwriters like Boese, a former record producer and night club manager, fill out clients’ bios and write messages to prospects in the voice and style of a given individual. Boese says he spends up to four hours daily managing a single client’s different dating profiles on apps including Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and more. 

In college, Boese dabbled in script writing and found that creating characters and writing their dialogue came naturally to him. 

“I use the same skillset working for Vida Select, except I don’t have to create the characters. They’re real people, and when we conduct interviews with new clients, I get every ounce of information out of them I could possibly need to come off as them,” he said. 

He still produces records as a hobby but found that doing so to pay the bills sucked the joy out of what remains a passion.

While Boese writes for clients of all ages, genders and backgrounds, he’s found a sweet spot in writing for divorced men in their 40s and 50s who are looking for love again. 

“I still enjoy writing for all types — it’s fun — whether it’s men or women. It’s a challenge and I look forward to that,” he said. What’s perhaps most satisfying for Boese, he said, is that if he does his job right, all a client has to do is “be themselves.”  It’s a fantastic feeling he said. 

“The thrill that comes from knowing that one of our clients has gone on to live their happily ever after is unlike anything I’ve had the opportunity to experience in any other writing role I’ve held in my life.”

And judging a prospect’s physical attractiveness from someone else’s point of view isn’t as awkward as it might seem. “I have a list of client preferences and I know what they’re looking for, so I’m not putting my likes into it at all,” Boese said. 

When the topic of travel comes up, he has to reconcile his desire to stay put with a client’s eagerness to roam. 

“Almost every client we have loves to travel and right off the bat I’m matching with people whose first question is, ‘Where do you want to go?'” he said. “I answer as truthfully as I can from the client’s point of view.” 

For Smith, the ultimate reward lies in making a match that lasts. “The thrill that comes from knowing that one of our clients has gone on to live their happily ever after is unlike anything I’ve had the opportunity to experience in any other writing role I’ve held in my life,” they said. 



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The Menendez brothers were given life sentences for gunning down their own parents. Now they’re hoping new evidence could reopen the case. “48 Hours” contributor Natalie Morales reports.

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California Gov. Gavin Newsom vetoed a bill Saturday that would have required new cars to beep at drivers if they exceed the speed limit in an effort to reduce traffic deaths.

California would have become the first to require such systems for all new cars, trucks and buses sold in the state starting in 2030. The bill would have mandated that vehicles beep at drivers when they exceed the speed limit by at least 10 mph.

The European Union has passed similar legislation to encourage drivers to slow down. California’s proposal would have provided exceptions for emergency vehicles, motorcycles and motorized scooters.

In explaining his veto, Newsom said federal law already dictates vehicle safety standards and adding California-specific requirements would create a patchwork of regulations.

The National Highway Traffic Safety “is also actively evaluating intelligent speed assistance systems, and imposing state-level mandates at this time risks disrupting these ongoing federal assessments,” the Democratic governor said.

Opponents, including automotive groups and the state Chamber of Commerce, said such regulations should be decided by the federal government, which earlier this year established new requirements for automatic emergency braking to curb traffic deaths. Republican lawmakers also said the proposal could make cars more expensive and distract drivers.

The legislation would have likely impacted all new car sales in the U.S., since the California market is so large that car manufacturers would likely just make all of their vehicles comply.

California often throws that weight around to influence national and even international policy. The state has set its own emission standards for cars for decades, rules that more than a dozen other states have also adopted. And when California announced it would eventually ban the sale of new gas-powered cars, major automakers soon followed with their own announcement to phase out fossil-fuel vehicles.

Democratic state Sen. Scott Wiener, who sponsored the bill, called the veto disappointing and a setback for street safety.

“California should have led on this crisis as Wisconsin did in passing the first seatbelt mandate in 1961,” Wiener said in a statement. “Instead, this veto resigns Californians to a completely unnecessary risk of fatality.”

The speeding alert technology, known as intelligent speed assistance, uses GPS to compare a vehicle’s pace with a dataset of posted limits. If the car is at least 10 mph over, the system emits a single, brief, visual and audio alert.

The proposal would have required the state to maintain a list of posted speed limits, and it’s likely that those would not include local roads or recent changes in speed limits, resulting in conflicts.

The technology has been used in the U.S. and Europe for years. Starting in July, the European Union will require all new cars to have the technology, although drivers would be able to turn it off. At least 18 manufacturers including Ford, BMW, Mercedes-Benz and Nissan, have already offered some form of speed limiters on some models sold in America, according to the National Transportation Safety Board.

The National Highway and Traffic Safety Administration estimates that 10% of all car crashes reported to police in 2021 were related to speeding. This was especially a problem in California, where 35% of traffic fatalities were speeding-related — the second highest in the country, according to a legislative analysis of the proposal.

Last year the NTSB recommended federal regulators require all new cars to alert drivers when they speed. Their recommendation came after a crash in January 2022, when a man with a history of speeding violations ran a red light at more than 100 mph and struck a minivan, killing himself and eight other people.



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